Moving from Networking to Positive Mentorship Relationships that Last
Have you ever been faced with a difficult decision in your career and you desperately needed advice, but did not know who to call? Nine years ago, I began to understand the connection between networking, mentorship, and my personal board of advisors. When faced with difficult career decisions, I now rely upon my mentorship relationships that have grown into my personal board of advisors.
I first learned about a personal board of advisors while in law school. This board consists of people you trust and can turn to throughout your life when faced with difficult decisions or questions. Before I could begin building this board, I had to have the relationships in place to create it.
When I moved to Minnesota, I did not know anyone. Truthfully, I did not know where to begin in terms of creating a network. I happened to attend an event where a woman was introduced as “the most networked woman in Minnesota”. I figured if anyone could help me, this woman could.
During my first meeting with this woman she changed the way I thought about networking and mentorship. She also introduced the concept of a personal board of advisors. She taught me three lessons that I have not forgotten.
First, I needed to change the way I was thinking about networking. As a young professional, I was thinking about networking as a one-way street for me to connect with someone who could teach me something. I needed to recognize that I had something to offer as well. She told me to never leave a coffee meeting without asking, “How may I support you and your work?”
Second, whether networking or building a mentorship relationship, the foundation is relationship building. Relationship building requires a time investment. Invest the time in getting to know your new connections and what is important to them in their work. If a professional event comes up that may interest them, extend an invitation to attend together. Again, the key is not to think of this as one sided.
Third, for relationships that are thriving, consider adding those people to your personal board of advisors. I had to learn that an advisor does not need to be someone further along in their career or older. Someone starting out or younger may also serve as an advisor. What is most important is that your advisors are those you trust to be honest with you and that they can provide you with different perspectives.
I am so grateful for the people who took the time to meet with me for coffee and eventually become mentors and advisors. As a result of what I have learned through these relationships, I try to do the same for others looking to connect. You never know, your next mentee may be your next advisor.
You can read more about Tisidra Jones on her website. She will also be moderating the panel for our event Taking the Lead: Lifting Up the Next Generation: Mentorship in the 21st Century. You can RSVP here for the event.